Type 1: The door must swing wide open with a loud noise

I have big dreams and I'm waiting for somebody to give me a chance to achieve those dreams, in other words, I must be directed to a wide open door and somebody must take my hand and walk me through it.

This can be illustrated in the mind of a tremendously talented high school soccer player. I'm the best center forward in my school and club. Everyone tells me that I can be better than the English superstar David Beckham or the Brazilian phenomenon Luis Ronaldo. My coach claims to be looking for a scholarship for me to play at the NCAA Division One level in the USA , so I give him my info and continue to play without a care in the world.

Rhetorical questions for Type 1

• Who wants the scholarship?
• If the coach doesn't get one for you, whose life is impacted the most? - (Remember, he is a full time coach, he has a job)
• How many kids did he tell the same story? Did it work out for them?
  

Type 2: The door must be open in only a particular way

I have big dreams and I work very hard at preparing myself to achieve those dreams. I see a few opportunities but they aren't exactly what I want so I'm going to keep working hard until the perfect door opens.

A good example of this is in the mind of a brilliant student. I attend a decent high school and am in line to definitely pass my classes with distinction. All of my friends after taking the SAT hope to win a scholarship by applying to as many schools as necessary. I already know what Ivy League school I want to attend so I shut out the world and apply only to Harvard. I know what I want and that's it. I don't know how I will pay but I don't care, my mind is made up.

Rhetorical questions for Type 2

• What's the average grade for acceptance to Harvard?
• If you get accepted, how are you going to pay?
• If you're not accepted, what are you going to do with your life?

Type 3: If the door is cracked, the door is open

I have big dreams and anything that looks like, smells like or even rhymes with the word opportunity is enough for me.

An illustration of this is found in the mind of a hairdresser! I've worked in my aunt's salon for 5 years and the ladies love my “style and cut”. They say no one in the area can touch my skills. I have dreams of one day being a stylist to the superstars.

What do I do?

• I subscribe to every hair magazine that contains articles about my style of work.
• I practice different styles on my best clients offering discounts for my experimental testing.
• I read books and watch videos put together by the stylists I wish to emulate including their life stories and their secrets to success.
• I attend every local hair show and small talk with the stylists there.
• I find the best hair schools in the country and do some research on admission and funding.
• Everyday my eyes and ears are wide open for opportunities. I read the newspapers and consider volunteering as a stylist for reputable fashion shows.
• Any chance I get to associate with the people I want to be like I take. I'll wash hair, pick up paper, carry bags and learn from them because I have big dreams and if it looks like the door is cracked, it is open.